It is What it is


It is what it is,is a statement I use when either co-workers or family members comes to me for my input or advice on matters that they are dealing with or situations they are facing, Well today I take heed to my own advice because I have realized in dealing with people it is what it is I have to learn to except it and move on.

You can preach and teach ,shout and scream for people to do better for themselves or do better for their family but at the end of the day it is what it is until they are ready to face reality it is what it is.

My case is there’s that one stepchild who has weaseled his way around situations he’s created himself whether it be marital,financial,etc he weasels his way out by blaming everyone else but himself at age 35 he will not take responsibility for nothing when he tells stories he paints himself as a victim but the real victims are his children every child needs the love and care of both parents especially a young man needs the love and care of his father so that he will know how to conduct himself as man ,as many single mothers we have out there and the majority of them do a magnificent job ,but when it comes to teaching a young boy how to be a man only a man can truly do that because a woman will never know what it’s like to be a man, the same with single fathers majority of them do a magnificent job but they cannot teach a young girl how to be a woman a man will never know what it’s like walk in the shoes of a woman.

The moral of this story is the father that this post is about was not ready to be a father because it is 24/7 7/365 you have to love,chastise,teach ,instruct encourage,be their go to person but until adulthood you cannot be best friends with your child ,you have to be steady with your dicipline consistent and rewarding and loving when they do good or accomplish a goal all the blame should not be pushed on the spouse ,mother-in-laws and grandparents shouldn’t be brought into spousal spats because a marriage should only consist of 2 people in this case it’s totally the opposite only time will tell how well this family will function in the meantime it is what it is until they realize that they themselves must do better it is what it is.

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